identity, experience, and aromanticism

So! I've been wondering if I'm aromantic.

For some context- I've questioned various aspec identities in the past, but put them all away after deciding I definitely felt sexual attraction (or desire, or at least feelings) last year. However, a recent conversation with two aspec friends (one of which is my partner) motivated me to reexamine this part of myself.

The main reason I'm writing a blog post about this, rather than letting my feelings stew for a few months before eventually deciding labels are stupid (like I do with all other parts of my identity), is that trying to find individual accounts of aro experiences is proving Fucking Difficult. Almost every post in the various aspec tags on tumblr is either 1) a non-specific positivity post, 2) discourse, or 3) a term coining. And what I actually want is what I got with my friends, which is someone speaking at length about their personal thoughts, feelings, and experiences. I find it really important to be able to listen to someone talk and go "holy shit that is an exact thing I've been feeling that I thought I was totally alone in", or "that doesn't sound like me, and I didn't realize other people felt like that, so that's useful to compare my own feelings against".

I'm not sure if any of this made sense. It's 1:30 am.

If you are arospec (especially if you are alloaro, romance favorable/partnering, and/or cupio), and want to share your thoughts/feelings/experiences with your identity, please email redrevelry.codes [at] gmail [dot] com